I’m not one for resolutions, in the past I used to make them and do nothing with them. They were just broken promises that I made to myself. The way I look at life is that, things happen so you have to take each day as it comes.

However there is nothing wrong with looking back at your year/life or at your present and thinking about what you could do more or less of, rather than making ‘resolutions’.

1 .Do: Trust your instinct; it is your body’s intrinsic way of protecting you, if something doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t. I used to ignore my instinct and it got me into all sorts of messes, now I do and it hasn’t proved me wrong yet.

Don’t: Be bitter, learn what you need to from life, make peace with the lessons given to you and move forward, even when it hurts.

2. Do: Treat yourself how you want to be treated, if you constantly put yourself down and treat yourself badly, you may just attract people who do the same, there is nothing wrong in treating yourself nicely. Start with you first and share that love with others.

Don’t: Compare yourself to others; this is a complete injustice to the person god created you to be, be yourself and make the best of you, always be yourself. If you don’t know what that is yet, spend some time with yourself and figure it out without the noise of others.

3. Do: Take responsibility for your life and how it is.  Guess what?! No one is coming to save you, so you better save yourself! Be your own hero.

Don’t: Let defeat discourage you, as I always say learn the lesson you need to, what could you have done better? Maybe it just wasn’t your time. Keep going what is meant for you WILL NOT miss you. Failure and defeat means you tried!

4.Do: Remove toxic relationships out of your life, free yourself, be it friends family, boyfriends/girlfriends whatever, don’t be afraid to start again, it will be the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Rid yourself of “frenemies” and don’t spend 2015 surrounded by people you secretly despise.

Don’t: Take good people for granted, they don’t come easily trust me. The regrets most people have in life are the chances they didn’t take and the people lost that they took for granted.

5. Do: Stop being so critical of everyone else and yourself, find something nice to say or; don’t bother.

Don’t: Don’t stop being kind yourself, you are the best and the longest known friend you will ever have

6. Do: Not ignore your purpose, those things you are passionate about are not coincidences they are your passions, find a way to monetise those things, believe in it with all your heart and make it your living.

Don’t: Put off what you can do for today for tomorrow, nothing is guaranteed but this moment you have NOW. Don’t over think everything sometimes we just need to go for it and figure it out afterwards; take chances you never know when they may come again.

7. Do: NOT EVER STOP LOVING YOU AND OTHERS! Pride yourself on having a loving heart regardless of what happens.

8. Do: Apologise for what you did wrong and forgive those who have wronged you even if that means you have to love them from a distance and forgive yourself, we don’t half like to hold a grudge these days, but forgiveness is freeing and the process in which you will find peace.

Don’t: Beat yourself up, forgiveness starts with you, you cannot forgive anyone until you learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you’ve made in life.

9. Do: Stop caring about how many people “like” your posts on social media. If you like the photo enough to post it, what else matters? Social media anxiety is a waste of time.

Don’t: Spend too much time worrying about your public image and worry more about what’s in your heart.

10. Do: Help strangers. “Pay it forward,” do good things for the world

Don’t: Worry about people misinterpreting your good deeds, but always do it from your heart.

11. Do: give yourself and others time to heal from painful times, understand that everyone reacts to situations differently and quietly allow them that time to heal.

Don’t: Take it personally; someone’s silence isn’t always about you.

12. Do: Strengthen relationships with family members. Blood is thicker than water.

Don’t: Wait until it’s too late.

2014 : Natasha K Benjamin